--Mindset, by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D., p.74
In her extraordinary book, Mindset, Dr. Carol S. Dweck presents research that, hopefully, will change the course of parenting and education. In one of her research studies, conducted with hundreds of mostly early adolescent students, she:
"gave each student a set of ten fairly difficult problems from a non-verbal IQ test. They mostly did well on these and when they were finished we praised them.
We praise some of the students for their ability. They were told: 'Wow, you got [say] eight right. That's a really good score. You must be smart at this.'
We praise other students for their effort: 'Wow, you got [say] eight right. That's a really good score. You must have worked really hard.'" P. 71-2
As it turned out, the students who were praised for being smart started to do worse and didn't enjoy the harder problems, fearing being exposed for not being as smart as the researcher thought, while 90% of the students praised for effort tried harder and enjoyed the harder problems. In fact, they found the harder problems "the most fun." In the end "the performance of the ability-praised students plummeted," while the "effort kids showed better and better performance."
"Since this was a kind of IQ test, you might say that praising ability lowered the students' IQs. And that praising their effort raised them." P. 73
This is powerful research for parents and educators. As I look back on kids I grew up with and went to school with, I can see this in action. Often, the kids who were told how smart or talented they were, or how much natural ability they had in a given area, such as sports or math, were the kids who never lived up to their potential. Those kids who were not given a "potential" to live up to were often the ones who did really well.
What Dr. Dweck's research shows is that praising an ability is one of the things that contributes to creating what she calls a "fixed mindset," which is a belief that our intelligence and abilities are something we are just born with and cannot be changed. Those with a "growth mindset" - the intent to learn - do not have this belief. They believe that through dedication and effort, they can develop their intelligence and abilities. As she shows in her excellent book, this has been proven over and over in all walks of life.
So what about praise? As we can see, praising a child for abilities contributes to the child becoming externally defined. This child says, "I get approval when I succeed. My worth is attached to success." This creates a fear of not succeeding and therefore not being worthy, which not only limits what the child tries to do, but also limits the enjoyment of it. The child is no longer learning for the joy of it, but for the approval, and will stop trying if it appears that he or she is not going to succeed. Failure to this child means, "I am a failure."
On the other hand, those children praised for effort rather than for abilities learn to be internally defined. They keep their natural enjoyment of learning. They are excited by the prospect of a challenge because they are unattached to the outcome of success or failure. Failure just means that they will try harder. Success or failure doesn�t define their worth.
Not only can parents and teachers greatly benefit from reading "Mindset", but anyone stuck in protecting against pain or failure can also benefit. If you have been trying to heal or progress in various areas of your life and feel you are not getting anywhere, read "Mindset." I highly recommend it.
About the Author
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By My Kids?" and Healing Your Aloneness. She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Discover the power that is ready to be awakened inside of you to be a loving parent! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com/welcome/parenting_help.html or email her at firstname.lastname@example.org. Phone sessions available.